Comments on: an interview with plan c about his dating life

By: sexagenarian07

sexagenarian07 — Thu, 17 Apr 2008 03:09:28 +0000

pt, he dated those women over a long period, about 2.5 years, with a 2 or 3 month break during which he was off line bec he was tired of dating. he didn’t keep count, but after i told him my number, 33, he counted up the names he had, and that’s what he came up with. his point about the divorces was just that he hadn’t met and talked with so many divorced people before. he must have been living in a little married bubble.

a&v, yes indeed. and as i said above, i’m not so sweet: my dates (as you know well) are Material….

By: a&v

a&v — Thu, 17 Apr 2008 00:59:47 +0000

I like how Plan C felt bad about saying unflattering things about his former dates. It shows an uncommon sweetness.

By: pt

pt — Thu, 17 Apr 2008 00:17:07 +0000

Mimi, if he dated 84 women in that time frame. that works out to just about 1 a week. That is hardly a lot, especially if he is looking for someone. Plus, men in that age group have so much choice. I’m surprised it wasn’t 184. (I am also surprised he kept such careful track. I’d have stopped counting long since.)

I’m surprised that he was surprised to find out the man is supposed to initiate the date. It is self-evident!

(Hmm.. so many surprises!)

Also, with those divorced women, you didn’t say (or he didn’t) who initiated the divorce. On the one hand, the women collectively seem angry, which would indicate their husbands wanted the divorce. On the other, they say they never really loved their husbands even way back when, which would indicate they wanted (or at least didn’t mind) the divorce.

By: sexagenarian07

sexagenarian07 — Wed, 16 Apr 2008 23:36:27 +0000

of course, i _do_ like to ‘quantify, stereotype, and gossip’ about my dates….

By: Dating Trooper

Dating Trooper — Wed, 16 Apr 2008 21:29:01 +0000

Well, consider your mission accomplished! I think you are putting a real “personal” face on dating in the sexagenarian world. You’re right. Some areas are different from dating in your 20s and 30s, and some are very much the same. It’s nice to hear from the men too. Especially the sensitive,nice ones like Plan C.
DT

By: sexagenarian07

sexagenarian07 — Wed, 16 Apr 2008 21:25:08 +0000

your first suggestion was correct: to get ‘the man’s perspective’ — i also interviewed performer last september, asking similar questions — this is a dating blog, and i wanted to circulate more info about dating, esp as sexagenarians do it — somewhat like and somewhat unlike the way non-sexagenarians do it, i suppose. no, not ‘to get to know him better’ — i had heard most of the little anecdotes anyway, to the extent that they cropped up in his conversation over the past 9 weeks. typing it up, i realized his ‘discomfort’ showed how sensitive he is, how he doesn’t like to quantify or stereotype or even gossip about his dates.

By: Dating Trooper

Dating Trooper — Wed, 16 Apr 2008 20:25:42 +0000

Question for you: Why are you asking Plan C all these questions? Don’t get me wrong, I’m always interested to hear the man’s perspective on the cold,hard truth of dating. And if that’s why you’re asking - out of pure journalistic curiosity for you and your readers - then terrific. But if you’re asking to try “get to know him better” as a partner, I’m not sure these questions are necessary or appropriate. They have potential to bring up awkwardness (sounds like they at least made him uncomfortable) and, if he senses you are digging for information about him, possibly eliciting half-truths to spare feelings? Just wondering…..
DT