Comments on: his wife and me http://sexagenarian07.wordpress.com/2008/04/09/his-wife-and-me/ a babyboomer's adventures with jewish gentlemen in the new york dating scene Fri, 22 Aug 2008 04:34:00 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=MU hourly 1 By: sexagenarian07 http://sexagenarian07.wordpress.com/2008/04/09/his-wife-and-me/#comment-7507 sexagenarian07 Tue, 15 Apr 2008 05:28:33 +0000 http://sexagenarian07.wordpress.com/?p=407#comment-7507 omigosh you mean i've finally grown up?!? amazing. it only took me more than half a century... well, thanks so much for your comments. i'm really lucky i've had the luxury of all this time to ripen. mimi omigosh you mean i’ve finally grown up?!?

amazing.

it only took me more than half a century…

well, thanks so much for your comments. i’m really lucky i’ve had the luxury of all this time to ripen.

mimi

]]> By: runaground http://sexagenarian07.wordpress.com/2008/04/09/his-wife-and-me/#comment-7506 runaground Mon, 14 Apr 2008 18:34:21 +0000 http://sexagenarian07.wordpress.com/?p=407#comment-7506 I've been a long-time reader/lurker and had to come out of the closet (peekaboo!) to comment on this post. I have not lived as long as you have -- I am only 40 -- but I've enjoyed reading your blog for so long because you really put yourself out there and rise to challenges and take life by the nuts, if you'll pardon my French! :) A lot of younger people seem to think they have to push that envelope with their beloved and establish themselves as the "special," and in order to do that they must erase what came before and stamp someone with their own proprietary label. I know some people say that as you age you gain the wisdom to look at the "bigger picture," so to speak, but I don't think that the years you tick off on a calendar really have much to do with that. I think it's more a measure of a person's inner sense of worth, which is never defined by what another tells you that you are but what you know yourself to be. Age is only one of many factors in that equation. I am very much in awe of the self-containment that you have, Mimi. I've been practicing some of it on my own since my recent divorce, but you've really raised the bar. I want to be you when I grow up. :) I truly enjoy your blog. I’ve been a long-time reader/lurker and had to come out of the closet (peekaboo!) to comment on this post.

I have not lived as long as you have — I am only 40 — but I’ve enjoyed reading your blog for so long because you really put yourself out there and rise to challenges and take life by the nuts, if you’ll pardon my French! :)

A lot of younger people seem to think they have to push that envelope with their beloved and establish themselves as the “special,” and in order to do that they must erase what came before and stamp someone with their own proprietary label. I know some people say that as you age you gain the wisdom to look at the “bigger picture,” so to speak, but I don’t think that the years you tick off on a calendar really have much to do with that. I think it’s more a measure of a person’s inner sense of worth, which is never defined by what another tells you that you are but what you know yourself to be. Age is only one of many factors in that equation.

I am very much in awe of the self-containment that you have, Mimi. I’ve been practicing some of it on my own since my recent divorce, but you’ve really raised the bar. I want to be you when I grow up. :)

I truly enjoy your blog.

]]> By: sexagenarian07 http://sexagenarian07.wordpress.com/2008/04/09/his-wife-and-me/#comment-7505 sexagenarian07 Fri, 11 Apr 2008 06:38:53 +0000 http://sexagenarian07.wordpress.com/?p=407#comment-7505 gee thank you v. much cobalt. and i think you're right about the 'package deals' -- it's like another way of saying 'baggage,' i guess. gee thank you v. much cobalt.
and i think you’re right about the ‘package deals’ — it’s like another way of saying ‘baggage,’ i guess.

]]> By: cobalt_00 http://sexagenarian07.wordpress.com/2008/04/09/his-wife-and-me/#comment-7503 cobalt_00 Fri, 11 Apr 2008 00:35:00 +0000 http://sexagenarian07.wordpress.com/?p=407#comment-7503 Mimi, there is so much here to comment on, but I'll sum up simply: you are a wonderful writer. There so many wonderful lines in this post - scenes outlined in a way both spare and vivid. The bits about photos (dancing, the shelf) in particular were great. Maybe having pasts means we're all package deals, in the end. Mimi, there is so much here to comment on, but I’ll sum up simply: you are a wonderful writer. There so many wonderful lines in this post - scenes outlined in a way both spare and vivid. The bits about photos (dancing, the shelf) in particular were great.
Maybe having pasts means we’re all package deals, in the end.

]]> By: sexagenarian07 http://sexagenarian07.wordpress.com/2008/04/09/his-wife-and-me/#comment-7499 sexagenarian07 Thu, 10 Apr 2008 12:22:01 +0000 http://sexagenarian07.wordpress.com/?p=407#comment-7499 well, for a long time i thought i wanted a divorced man....whether it's accident or choice that i ended up with plan c, i don't know. what i still don't understand is why i didn't perceive there was so much wrong w. performer. anyway, yes, it has taken me this long. let's hope i'm finally right; after all, it's just over two months that i've known plan c. well, for a long time i thought i wanted a divorced man….whether it’s accident or choice that i ended up with plan c, i don’t know. what i still don’t understand is why i didn’t perceive there was so much wrong w. performer. anyway, yes, it has taken me this long.
let’s hope i’m finally right; after all, it’s just over two months that i’ve known plan c.

]]> By: pt http://sexagenarian07.wordpress.com/2008/04/09/his-wife-and-me/#comment-7497 pt Thu, 10 Apr 2008 07:20:57 +0000 http://sexagenarian07.wordpress.com/?p=407#comment-7497 Mimi, Plan C had lung cancer??!! Terrible. I also will not date never-married eternal bachelors. There are a few exceptions, but very few, who turn out not to be weird. There are good reasons these guys never married, deny it though they might. The fact you have so many exes just means you wanted a non-ex so badly. There is nothing wrong with trying. It is definitely better to be with a widow than a divorced man, for the reasons you said. The former want a good partnership and know what it is like and that it is possible; the latter are oftentimes bitter, defensive and critical. If being 61 means you get a great relationship, I want to fast-forward until I am 61. Mimi, Plan C had lung cancer??!! Terrible.

I also will not date never-married eternal bachelors. There are a few exceptions, but very few, who turn out not to be weird. There are good reasons these guys never married, deny it though they might.

The fact you have so many exes just means you wanted a non-ex so badly. There is nothing wrong with trying.

It is definitely better to be with a widow than a divorced man, for the reasons you said. The former want a good partnership and know what it is like and that it is possible; the latter are oftentimes bitter, defensive and critical.

If being 61 means you get a great relationship, I want to fast-forward until I am 61.

]]> By: sexagenarian07 http://sexagenarian07.wordpress.com/2008/04/09/his-wife-and-me/#comment-7496 sexagenarian07 Thu, 10 Apr 2008 02:09:11 +0000 http://sexagenarian07.wordpress.com/?p=407#comment-7496 gosh just when i'm thinking of myself as the bad girl, with two ex-husbands and lots of ex-boyfriends, all this nice stuff comes at me! thank you so much, SG. i hope you'll be lucky too. gosh just when i’m thinking of myself as the bad girl, with two ex-husbands and lots of ex-boyfriends, all this nice stuff comes at me! thank you so much, SG. i hope you’ll be lucky too.

]]> By: SingleGirl http://sexagenarian07.wordpress.com/2008/04/09/his-wife-and-me/#comment-7495 SingleGirl Thu, 10 Apr 2008 01:10:41 +0000 http://sexagenarian07.wordpress.com/?p=407#comment-7495 Wow mimi, that was a beautiful post! Extremely thoughtful and intriguing. All I can say is that you are a wonderful woman who is obviously very caring, considerate and compassionate. Plan C is lucky to have found you! And you are fortunate to have found him! Wow mimi, that was a beautiful post! Extremely thoughtful and intriguing. All I can say is that you are a wonderful woman who is obviously very caring, considerate and compassionate. Plan C is lucky to have found you! And you are fortunate to have found him!

]]> By: sexagenarian07 http://sexagenarian07.wordpress.com/2008/04/09/his-wife-and-me/#comment-7494 sexagenarian07 Wed, 09 Apr 2008 20:58:10 +0000 http://sexagenarian07.wordpress.com/?p=407#comment-7494 DT, maybe some day you can post about ghosts, if they're ever relevant to the WG story. i don't think i believe in them as autonomous beings, but who knows? maybe i'll be surprised one day. but definitely, the ghost of W is part of our relationship. DT, maybe some day you can post about ghosts, if they’re ever relevant to the WG story. i don’t think i believe in them as autonomous beings, but who knows? maybe i’ll be surprised one day. but definitely, the ghost of W is part of our relationship.

]]> By: Dating Trooper http://sexagenarian07.wordpress.com/2008/04/09/his-wife-and-me/#comment-7493 Dating Trooper Wed, 09 Apr 2008 19:09:23 +0000 http://sexagenarian07.wordpress.com/?p=407#comment-7493 I think the "part of the package" comment refers to your generosity in accepting her existence and importance in his life and not bringing any jealousy into the picture. I think you are handling it beautifully. Though I disagree on one point - I do believe in ghosts (though also agree that the living create them as well). I think the “part of the package” comment refers to your generosity in accepting her existence and importance in his life and not bringing any jealousy into the picture. I think you are handling it beautifully. Though I disagree on one point - I do believe in ghosts (though also agree that the living create them as well).

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